Just Engaged? What to Do First: Your First 90 Days of Wedding Planning

You're engaged. You've told your people, stared at the ring approximately 400 times, and now everyone wants to know one thing: "When's the wedding?"

Before you start booking vendors, creating Pinterest boards, or trying to decide between 17 different color palettes, take a breath.

You don't have to plan your entire wedding right now.

The first few months are about making a few important decisions that will make everything else much easier.

Here's where I'd start.

1. Talk About What You Actually Want

Before you choose a venue or set a date, talk with your partner about the kind of wedding you want to have.

Do you want a big celebration or something more intimate? A formal evening or a relaxed outdoor wedding? Is the guest experience a major priority? Are there traditions you absolutely want to include, or things you already know you don't care about?

There isn't one right way to get married.

Start by figuring out what feels like you two.

2. Set a Realistic Budget

This isn't the most exciting part of wedding planning, but it is one of the most important.

Before falling in love with a venue or photographer, have an honest conversation about what you're comfortable spending.

And don't forget to leave room for the expenses that aren't always obvious at first.

Your wedding budget isn't just the venue, food, and photographer. Rentals, transportation, stationery, beauty services, alterations, gratuities, setup and breakdown, and all those little details can add up quickly.

Know your number before you start making decisions based on someone else's wedding.

3. Make a Guest List Estimate

You don't need the final guest list yet.

But you do need a realistic estimate.

Your guest count affects almost everything: venue options, catering, rentals, tables, invitations, transportation, and ultimately your budget.

If one of you is thinking 75 guests and the other is thinking 175, it's better to figure that out now.

4. Start Looking at Wedding Venues

Once you have a general budget and guest count, you can start looking at venues.

And don't just look at pretty pictures.

A venue can look perfect online and still not be the right fit for your wedding.

5. Consider Hiring a Wedding Planner Early

You don't have to wait until the month before your wedding to bring in a planner.

In fact, getting help early can make the entire planning process easier.

A planner can help you understand your budget, create a realistic timeline, recommend vendors, review logistics, and help you make decisions before they become expensive problems.

And if full-service planning isn't what you need, there are other options. Partial planning and wedding day management can provide support at different stages of the process.

6. Book Your Priority Vendors

Once your venue and date are set, start thinking about the vendors who matter most to you.

Your priorities may look completely different, and that's okay.

The important thing is knowing which vendors you would be genuinely disappointed to miss out on and booking those first.

7. Don't Try to Do Everything at Once

This might be the most important advice I can give you.

You do not need to have your invitations designed, dress purchased, florist booked, honeymoon planned, and seating chart started because you got engaged last weekend.

Wedding planning is a process.

Give yourself permission to enjoy being engaged without turning every conversation into a planning meeting.

You have time. Start with the big decisions, then work your way down.

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